Top reasons people why people find you detestable.
You’ve been there, you’ve thought about it… maybe even uttered it a few times. You know when… that moment in private conversation with your best friend, or your favorite colleague, in a gossip session or maybe in the privacy of your home, watching tv, surfing on facebook, going through your twitter timeline, the thing is that you, at any point of your life have succumbed to say: “Oh he/she is just an asshole!”
Don’t feel bad about it, we’ve all done it and yes, it feels good to say it. But have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe you’ve been acting like one?
Having met a few assholes myself and surrounded by a few of them on a daily basis, I consider myself somewhat of an expert. So I give you my top traits that make you such an unpleasant person.
Your word is holy, at least that’s what you think and you have no problem letting everyone know.
You have that person in your life… yeah, that one that considers the music it listens the best there is, the one that judges everything around and if you happen to disagree with the remark, belittles everything you say, even pointing out how ignorant or naive you are for having a different opinion.
You take the credit for things you didn’t do.
I had a boss like this a looong time ago… He used to call me at any given time to perform any task, no matter how simple or idiotic it was, but there where times when he called for big important things, you know, those that could make you shine… and after spending an intense amount of hours getting things done I would send the information only to find out a few minutes later that he took the work, trimmed it down a bit and erased my name from all of the slides and presented the solution as its own. In my mind, “asshole” was the tamest of the words that came to my mind. I remember vividly using every inch of my body to hate him every time it happened, for this was an usual thing.
Like the energizer bunny, you promise and promise and promise and yep… promise even more.
Whenever you sit in front of your tv, or stand along with thousands witnessing a speech given by your favorite politician you get tired of listening to same promises.. “I will lower the taxes..”, “I will fix the roads…”, “I will create jobs…”, the list goes on forever, and it doesn’t only apply to politics, it applies to every aspect of your life… When your parents promise you to take you to Disney, or when your boss promises you to get you a raise, and it never happens. It is tough but at any point of your life this has happened and in all of the cases, the though has crossed your mind… “What an asshole!”.
In the end, there are many other traits for which you could be considered a detestable person, but if you don’t make an introspective analysis you will never find out, and worst you won’t be able to fix it. So it’s important to get feedback and check if you are today’s hot topic in the gossip arena!
And you, the one that always identifies the arse, make sure you are open and honest enough to let your friend, colleague, parent, sibling or family member know when they are acting inappropriately, for it will be the chance for them to grow.
Now, look yourself at the mirror ask the questions, and stop being such an ass!